Dear Prudence gets it right.

I have been reading Emily Yoffe's column for some years now and I have found her to be a well balanced and sensible person.

I was thrilled therefore when I saw her very sensible response to a women and her loved one who are suffering from heightism.

The only downside of the response is that the letter is titled 'Unusual Couple'. It's a shame that a taller women with a shorter man is still perceived that way.

Q. Unusual Couple: I have been dating an amazing man for three years. He recently proposed and I could not be happier. We are both so excited to plan our wedding. My fiancé is five inches shorter than me, something that has never bothered me, but what does bother me are the rude comments I sometimes get regarding our height difference and now that we have told everyone about the upcoming wedding they have increased a bit. Most of our friends and acquaintances have said nothing but lovely things, but some have said things such as: "He is too short for you in the long run," and making rude jokes about him not being "man enough" for me. These comments make me furious, and I was wondering if you could help me come up with a great retort. So far I have said; "He is big where it matters," which is not very classy.

A: Sometimes the best approach is just to look bemused, stay silent, and let the stupidity hang in the air. You could also say, "Thanks for your good wishes" or "Wow, what a small-minded thing to say."

To read the rest of Prudie's column please follow the link below.



http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/11/dear_prudence_thanksgiving_is_too_much_for_my_introverted_daughter.html