You don't have to take shorter men's word for it. The Internet kindly provides hundreds of examples of this sort of thinking by women. If you want an example, check out this post. But be warned you may find it triggering. The Frisky - Dating Dilemma - Am I a Heightist?
I don't want to get into the whys and wherefores of dating and Heightism right now. In a nutshell I believe that the argument that Heightist preferences are evolutionary is basically a load of rubbish. I strongly believe Heightism is an artificial construct - but this is something I hope to expand on in later posts.
Right now I want to discuss what women are missing out on by dismissing shorter men.
If you are already a member of the anti-Heightism movement you don't need to be convinced that shorter men are just as worthy as taller men. I'm preaching to the converted.
I'm not writing this post for the converted. I'm writing it in the hope that it might be stumbled upon by a women who feels the pressure of heightism to the extent that it is effecting her dating preferences (as experienced by the women in the example I linked to). I'm writing it to beg that hypothetical women to reconsider.
So I ask you hypothetical women to imagine the following. Out there somewhere there is a single man with wonderful qualities. A kind man who is hard working, amusing and sensitive. A family orientated man who has the potential to be a great father. A man who displays loyalty and endurance. He is also good looking with stunning eyes and a sexy bottom. His friends clearly think highly of him. An added bonus is that he has a good job, drives his own car and is financially sound. Sounds great right?
This man is 5 foot 3 inches in height.
Still sound good to you hypothetical lady?
Well if you said no you wouldn't be alone. Women all over the web would agree with you as evidence has shown. Plus there are loads of single men who meet this description because I encounter them in the 'anti-heightism sphere' every day.
Take an example from my life. One man meeting the above description is my husband. He made it to 33 without much success in the dating world before I snapped him up. I got the better deal out of it and can't really believe that someone so out of my league in many ways is now my husband. It's a bit like I got a 4 bedroom mansion for a fiver because no other buyers on the market liked the colour of the paint on the front door!
I am convinced that had he been taller he would have been married with kids years ago and I wouldn't have stood a chance.
So on this basis, hypothetical women, I ask you to reconsider. Take height off your list and focus on the things you really need from a man to make you happy in the long term. Look for a man who will treat you and all other people with respect. Find a man who is loyal and has mental stamina. These are crucial for when difficult times come. Be sure you can laugh together, it helps the time pass more pleasantly and makes it easier to laugh off an argument. Ensure that you share your most basic spiritual and lifestyle values because those are the backbones of a relationship. Forget looks, they fade. Most of all, don't let our Heightist society rob you of someone who could make you happy.
This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the foxes who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male. One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
ReplyDeleteThis blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence and a tie in with this blog. No doubt all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s, for I certainly didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier would not have given me the time of day. And even now, they may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young? I was amazed how the dating game changed in my favor. And I used it to my advantage, just as women had done years earlier.
I am now married and have 4 sons. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored 2 US patents. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. (Maybe due to the Alfa male fascination) So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man (and Beta males) until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males (and Beta males) in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate. There are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them.